Is there such a thing as a right time? I feel very conflicted over the whole issue. On the one hand, I'm so very broody already and the sight of a newborn baby practically makes my ovaries clench but on the other hand, Oliver is only 7 and half months and the idea of actually having another baby anytime soon seems not only ludicrous to me but perhaps rather unfair on him. However, then I started thinking about the main arguments for waiting before having second babies.
The first argument, I imagine, is usually money. For us (although I am not naive enough to think that having a second baby won't cost us anything!) the money isn't quite so much of an issue because we have made all the big, expensive baby purchases already with our first one and also I am staying off work indefinitely with Oliver anyway so the whole 'childcare cost for two' problem is eliminated.
The other reason that is usually given for waiting before having another that it's not fair on the first child to have to share you so soon. While I can completely understand this one, people seem to forget that only a first baby will ever get the luxury of being an only child! What about the poor, 'hard done by' second, third (and beyond) babies of the world that are born having to share you? Nobody worries about them do they? ;-)
I suppose the decision (and the reasons behind the making of it) really are different for every couple. The reason we have chosen to wait a little while before having another isn't because of money or Oliver at all really - it's for me, selfishly wanting to feel like myself for another year or so before once again becoming a large, lumbering, non alcohol drinking, bundle of hormones :-) Although that said, I accidentally started my pack of pills two days late this month and didn't realise so perhaps the decision will be taken out of my hands.....
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